The "one caring adult" in Neville's life was about as helpful to him as the Dursleys had been to Harry! Both Harry and Neville came from backgrounds of neglect, and I think both of them would have been perfectly happy to blend into the woodwork, if allowed to. Neville did have the advantage of being raised within the Wizarding World, and perhaps if he had been given the status of the one chosen to defeat the Dark Lord his family situation would have been stronger, hence he wouldn't have been as backward as he was. But, Harry appears to have better Magical Genes, in my opinion. I think Harry might've been a bit of an over priviledged git in this scenario, given the fact that both of his parents would've been alive, and Sirius would've also been available . . . (oops, strayed a bit, sorry

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