Exactly! And I think it was a big shock to Ron when he realised what comes with being the Boy Who Lived. I don't think Ron ever wanted Harry's history, but he wanted the same amount of fame and recognition, which, although it is a fault, occurs in a hell of a lot of teenagers and indeed adults. There are so many people who want fame for doing nothing - the people who go on Big Brother are one extreme example. ;)
Ron doesn't understand that Harry doesn't care about being famous or want recognition- all Harry wants is to be free of his crushing destiny (and Voldemort) and a loving family that he can call his own. Harry doesn't get why Ron doesn't realise how much HE has, and why he wants to be famous (GoF and the Triwizard). Ron wants Harry's talents and 'name'. Harry wants Ron's family and normalacy. A right pair of battling tops, eh?
I agree totally - I hate those fics where the entire thing is just Ron and Hermione feeling sorry for Harry. Yeah, of course they're going to feel sorry for him, but they have feelings and needs of their own too, and its not like they've never been in dangerous and traumatic situations. Not as bad as Harry, but they were around too.
No, you can't! All three of the trio have had their share of tetchiness throughout the books. The author blamed Ron for almost every fight he and Harry ever had, seeming to think that Ron should always have taken responsibility and been more supportive of Harry. Well... it takes two to tango. Harry was often just as stubborn as Ron in refusing to make up. And even though Harry was the member of the trio with the biggest problems, that doesn't mean that the other two are just there to support him. Harry needs to be a friend to them as well.